There is no rulebook.
No Celestial Compendium of Benevolent Knowledge.
There’s many a 10 step programme. An infinite supply of advisors. And our parents.
Ultimately we all want happiness. A steady stream of dopamine, oxytocin, serotonin and endorphins. Not too much all the time. Not too little ever.
How we get the right amount at the right rate is down to how we create our own rulebook. Get up. Make the bed. Shower. Eat healthy food. Be nice.
I once tried to write my life manifesto. And indeed still have a monthly “manifesto review” for the first Sunday of every month. In 2008 I read about 60 self-help books. And summarised the main points in each of them. From this I noticed that successful people have the following characteristics:
- Communication skills
- Working hard
- Being disciplined/creating good habits.
The other thing that came out of this was about belief in oneself: believe about yourself what you would like others to believe about you. The manifesto work was to make sure I was actively working on those 6 areas.
The other part was that there is a big gap between the knowledge or capacity and the acting on it. Be proactive.
In the next few posts I’ll dive into each of those areas.